Saturday, December 21, 2013


FWR Says: Wellness Needed in Family, Home and School Relationships

Both the family and the schools have work overload. Too often dialogue doesn’t happen. Children’s learning suffers when parents and schools differ.

The family is burdened with too much work and fragmentation of family coming from money and social conditions. Schools suffer from cutbacks and community expectations to do more than they can. These are the main reasons parents and schools don’t always get along.

Both family and school need to remember that learning is a lifetime process, nurtured in the family and supported by the school.

Despite these conditions, families can still support the school by attending school meetings and finding agreements about homework etc. Schools need to remember that they cannot be in charge of a child’s learning process - that is a family role. Both families and schools need to recognize that learning comes more from experience than from teaching.

Both family and school need to shed any negative prejudices of each other.

All these challenges are beyond families and schools to handle by themselves. We need new groups that focus on home/school collaboration. We all need new approaches to home/family communications, new PTA roles and school trustees who remember that it takes a community to raise a child.

FWR Says: A persons’ life-long learning is moulded by home and school collaboration.

Sunday, December 08, 2013


FWR Says: Risks in good families - Grandparent Contacts

We know that some grandparents can have great influences on the character of children - for good or for bad. We also know that, today, there is often some distance between a family and the grandparents. And, we also know that today’s parents are so rushed they have little time for themselves without thinking about the grandparents.

There are some risks in all this. Parents can miss guidance of children. The children can miss important influences and lessons grandparents have learned. In earlier days, grandparents were close to families so that the children got benefits from six or more adults. Sadly that day has gone.

In the Williams family, there were obstacles to the children’s access to the grandparents. Distance was one. Religion was another - the younger generation had no interest in the church in which they were raised. Then there was the all too common matter of parents wanting to prove themselves – hence resenting grandparent contacts. This is close to tragic for both the children and the grandparents. For some mysterious reason this generation of parents has little regard for their own history.

Some tips for grandparents:
  • Don’t back off
  • Special events are always good
  • Money can be used in personal ways

FWR Says: Each child needs to know his grandparents