Saturday, May 25, 2013



Everybody wants wellness. Everywhere we are offered wellness in different forms - fitness, creams, drugs, meditation, religion - an endless list.

To know what our kids need, the big challenge is to answer the big question: “What are the big gifts we got from our parents?” We end up with precious things like the place we belong, love that lasts, someone looking out for us - these are the real things that bring us wellness.

So, wellness comes to us from our parents and grandparents by osmosis.

We don’t usually think about these big gifts. They can be taken for granted.

Therefore, parents and grandparents have two of the most important jobs in the world. First, they need to think about what they have been given. They should make a list.

Second, this list of gifts from parents becomes the job description of parents and grandparents for all the kids. The lives of these young people will be shaped by these intangible benefits. We therefore must make sure we are passing on what we were given.

To help parents and grandparents with this main job, the Family Wellness Rainbow was developed to show the key wellness areas that families need. They are:

    Red for Fitness and Health - exercise, diet, etc

    Orange for Relationships - families, friends, work

    Yellow for Knowledge - for good decisions

    Green is for Family - the place to belong

    Blue is for Values - goodness, honestly

    Purple is for faith - what’s it all about?
These are the colours of the rainbow that in combination and balanced make up the rainbow. The family can use the rainbow to check out how they are doing.

FWR Says:  The balanced Family Rainbow brings Wellness

Sunday, May 12, 2013


FWR Says:  The freedom of one person costs many others

There are so many different kinds of freedom - well beyond our listing. We have freedom from bombs, freedom from harm, from disease, from prejudice, from abuse - and so on and so on.

Each of our freedoms comes at a great cost to others. More freedom for one means less freedom for another. It is easy to trace the history of our national freedom and all the others. So, while we all seem to want more freedom we should be careful who loses what we ask for.

The teen who thinks that a life of freedom comes from no parent control doesn’t get it. He doesn’t know the cost to the family for him being here. He has no idea of all the freedoms he already has, thanks to the efforts and costs of his family.

That teen doesn’t know the history of what it cost for him to go to school. Today’s school costs, though high, don’t match the efforts and sacrifices made in the past to provide education. This is true for most of us for the freedoms we have.

Teenage is a magic time when a person can experiment how he handles freedom. It is a time when parents leave him some wiggle room. It is also a time when he should be thinking about his next steps into work, family and parenthood. He doesn’t have too much time for all that.

With all the types of freedom, there is one that is basic to all of us. It is the internal freedom that we can have if we chose well. Many people of faith have that freedom. It makes other forms of freedom less important despite our conditions.

Ghandi is a prime example of one with inner freedom. On that base, he brought social freedom to millions. The cost was high. He had to live with the cost of strict personal discipline. In the end, he paid for these freedoms with his life.

FWR says:  Before we demand another freedom, count the cost to others.