THE FAMILY AND THE GENDER TRENDS


After too long, there is serious effort in the West to bring balance in the roles of men and women. We all know the history. Now we need to make sure we get it right this time.

The main question always is - What’s so important? The answer to that question is the children. Men and women are different so that they can have and raise kids. Technically, the differences between the sexes are minor compared to their common abilities.

We do have strong cultural influences. Women tend to be more nurturing. Men tend to security roles. We would be wise not to mess with too many features of family life as we work towards role balance.

In the home, gender isn’t a factor on who is the natural leader. Leaders should lead. Good leaders should lead in ways that brings out the best in others. Good leaders don’t worry about their image - they worry about the roles and satisfactions of others.

Once clear about the big issues, the others can more comfortably be dealt with.

The Mom who works outside the home faces a heavy load, if being a wife and mother are also vital to her. Surely that is an issue for Mom and Dad to find new ways to ease. This challenge can’t be helped by laws, protests or searing editorials.

There is the issue of the woman who is now boss at work. She has a double challenge: using her gifts comfortably, while overseeing others who have discomforts.

What are the dangers?

• Moms wear themselves out so everybody loses.
• Replacing male macho by female macho.
• Expecting balance to come too soon and too much.
• Commercial catering to women which results in imbalance.

This is a big social and cultural shift which will be beneficial to all provided the families get it right. Another point in THE FAMILY CHALLENGE.

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